đź’” Never Do This After Divorce – Elon Musk
I’ve been divorced three times. Through each painful separation, I learned what works, what doesn’t, and most importantly, what absolutely destroys any chance of healing and moving forward.
The One Thing You Should NEVER Do:
❌ Don’t try to prove you were right and they were wrong
Sounds simple, but it’s the most seductive and destructive trap divorce sets for you. I fell into it completely after my first divorce with Justine.
Why This Destroys You:
🔥 Keeps you emotionally trapped – I obsessed over every argument, replaying conversations, building my case instead of healing
⚔️ Turns divorce into war – Made everything more expensive, traumatic, poisoned co-parenting forever
đź’” Prevents real healing – Anger feels powerful, but grief is necessary for moving forward
đźš« Makes you toxic to future partners – Nobody wants to date someone still fighting their last relationship
👶 Destroys your children – They need to love both parents, not choose sides in your war
The Turning Point:
A friend asked me: “When are you going to start missing her instead of hating her?” That question broke something open in me.
What I Learned:
âś… Focus on what you can control going forward
âś… Take responsibility for your own contributions
âś… Speak about your ex with basic respect (especially around kids)
âś… Choose healing over winning, growth over vindication
The Hard Truth:
Your ex’s opinion doesn’t determine your worth. Proving they were wrong won’t heal your pain. The best revenge isn’t vindication – it’s building a life so good their opinion becomes irrelevant.
đź’¬ Have you seen people get trapped in this cycle? How do you choose healing over winning?
